I call this the waiting game. If your ex is showing you a little bit of interest, or seems more interested in going out and spending time with you than before, or if you notice signs that your ex is trying to flirt with you (ie through text messages, emails, or phone calls) then it's okay to be a little hopeful but please don't jump the gun. At this point in time you may be asking yourself "does my ex want to get back with me""
Maybe your ex does want to get back with you and maybe you feel likewise but there are a few things that you should remember. Never simply jump into things. Never let your ex know that they have the upper hand. Play hard to get (in moderation), which is probably what your ex will best respond to anyway. If you simply jump into things full force, then you may find your ex pushing you back again. Keep the following in mind: if your ex is giving indications that he or she wants you back, odds are, it was you playing hard to get that led to the renewed interest in the first place.
Usually when you break up with your ex, or he or she breaks up with you, there may be some time when each of you feel a moment of relief. A sigh if you will. Obviously something wasn't working out or there may have been a distance thing. Otherwise there is a natural level of missing one another, or longing to get back together. Its a know fact that this happens following a relationship of a year or longer. Your ex is probably going to miss you no matter what... and again, likewise. Face it, you've shared many memories together during this period of time. The two of you (separately) may be saying to yourselves, "what if". If you are wondering "does my ex want to get back with me" the odds are that your ex may be thinking the same thing for the same reasons.
Sometimes when an ex shows interest again following a break up however, it may be part of a plan or game. They may see that you love them, and they may simply be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get you back. I call this cruel but sometimes it is part of the game. So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects on the horizon. Sometimes it is because they've put their friends on the side while they were with you and those friends arent' so readily coming back. In other words, they need someone to hang out with. Worst of all they may see this as away to get revenge for some perceived wrong. This is why it is important not to jump the gun, and why you should focus on analyzing the situation before you act on it.
This is common, and a lot of people find themselves wondering "does my ex want to get back with me?", but the truth is, its better to get a feel for the situation before you act. In reality, if your ex does want to get back with you, playing hard to get (in moderation) is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.
If you want more tips, I highly recommend The Magic Of Making Up
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